Too Late For Flowers
Never Too Late For Tears
By Roy L. Sturgill
As I study and try in my uneducated way
to
search out the genealogy of my forefathers, I try to picture in my mind
the way they lived, how , and if their lives were influenced by the
hard
times they endured; and most of all I find myself wishing that I could
have been with them, in their endeavor to wrest from the earth an
existence,
and an independence beyond reproach. Earlier in life, and seeing it
through
the eyes of an inquisitive boy. I was made to wonder why my elders
settled
in mountainous northwestern North Carolina, Southwest Virginia, and
Eastern
Kentucky. Now as the sands of time have flowed constantly onward,
causing me to be older and perhaps a
little
wiser. I can understand their nomadic travels.
Since most were small-time farmers,
they
were forever on the lookout for an abundance of wood and water.
Numerous
streams criss-crossed the land, and there were many trees for building
homes. A casual observer might have thought that no farm land was to be
found in this rocky hill country, but in the valleys
and flats along the creeks and rivers,
there
was much fertile soil, and settlers went about clearing the brush and
fencing
their fields with the rocks strewn about or with split rails from the
bountiful
supply of trees. They had brought seeds with which to plant their
crops,
but only the barest necessities in the way of food to last until the
first
harvest. It was fortunate that fish abounded in the creeks, waterfowl
came
in the fall, and the woods were full of small game and birds. Black
walnut
trees grew along the creek banks and their nuts were gathered in
autumn.
There were wild plum trees, wild grapes, blackberries, and other wild
fruits.
Corn was the main crop. It was a staple
food
for man, beast and fowl. As the garden was the housewife's domain, she
saw to it that some land was left for that purpose. Some families
brought
small apple, pear, and peach trees, and these were set out. Almost
everyone
had a patch of cane for making molasses.
The setting of a new area always
necessitated
the building of homes. This required the cutting of trees for the
erecting
of log cabins. The timber was prepared by hewing both sides of the logs
to flatten them. The ends were notched to form a locking joint at the
corners.
Once the logs were ready to lay up, there was a "house-raising." That
is,
the people would band together and most of the time the house would be
ready for occupancy in a day. The cracks between the logs were chinked
with small blocks of wood set at an angle and covered with clay. At one
end there was always the large fireplace built from native stone and
cemented
with clay mixed with dry grass or straw to prevent crumbling. These
chimneys
would stand throughout the years; and in some cases, long afer the
house
had fallen or was torn down.
Furniture was the least worry of all.
The
bedsteads had only one leg. A large square stick was hewed, and a hole
was bored in it and in the log of the house. A pole was put in for a
side
rail, and one was used for the back. Ropes were criss-crossed, or if
the
rope was not available, boards were nailed on for a top. If
there were no nails, small wooden pegs
were
substituted. For closet space to accommodate the few dishes and
utensils
as well as clothing and bed clothes, holes were bored in the logs of th
house, wooden pins put in them, a board laid on that and another above
that, and so on, until they had all the shelves needed. Stools were
made
by sawing two or three inches from the end of a big log, boring three
or
four holes in one side, and driving in round pegs for the legs. This
was
the principal part of the furniture. Before the day of the cook stove,
all the cooking was done on the hearth of the fireplace over hot coals,
in large dutch ovens or "bakers" (as they were called). Our elders made
all their own clothes. They had to card, weave, and spin every inch of
cloth. They made their own shoes, quilted their own quilts, and weaved
their blankets. Everything was sewn by hand. Dyes were made from bark
and
leaves of the oak. Walnut made a pretty
dark brown. Broomsedge made a light
yellow.
Moss and other things were used for coloring.
If you think most of our forebearers'
time
was spent in getting and preparing food, you would be right. After the
hardships of the first year, think of the good eating these foods
provided.
There was fresh pork from hog (fattened on acorns), chinquapins and
corns.
There were eggs and chickens, milk and butter from
"Old Bossy."
I wish I could once again open the door
of
one of those spring houses, so common in those days, and capture the
tantalizing
fragrance of fresh churned butter, crocks of sweet cream, and
milk.
They were built near a spring where the stream could run through them.
A race, built of whatever material was available, a foot or two wide on
the floor, accomodated ample space for anything that needed to be kept
cool. I'd love to hear, again, the sound of the little stream as it
trickled
around the crocks and pans in the race. There was always a cup handy
for
a cool, refreshing drink. The one I remember best, was a long-necked
gourd
with a leather throng for hanging on a nail near the spring.
Money was always in short supply, as it
was
not really needed. Almost anything could be exchanged at the store for
a little coffee, salt, sugar, kerosene, and tobacco. Chickens, butter,
corn, beeswax, feathers, animal pelts, and many other items were taken
in exchange for these necessities. Trips to the store were
made about once a month. Should one of
these
commodities play out, the woman of the house learned to make do until
it
was convenient to go again. I would like to go back some thirty or
forty
years and visit an old country store. One could never forget the smell
of kerosene, coffee, spices, and new leather for mending shoes. All
smells
comingled to create a smell like nothing else in the world.
Early wintertime was the time for fresh
pork,
turnips and greens, sweet and irish potatoes, hominy, jams, jellies,
and
honey. Eggs were usually plentiful, as were milk and butter. The
housewife
prided herself on the good tables she set. As wintertime wore on,
however,
the green vegetables played out. The fresh
pork became salt pork, the cow's flow
of
milk became scanty, and the hens stopped laying. Everybody's menu
became
limited to a steady diet of dried beans, salt pork, cornpone, and
molasses
or similar foods. Long before spring, a deep hunger for something green
began to be felt.
The first warm day found the lady of
the
house outdoors in search of "garden sass" sometimes called "sallet."
One
of the earliest edible greens to appear was a plant called "lamb's
quarter"
(for what reason I cannot say). It was a bland, almost tasteless, wild
plant. Since it was green and non-poisonous, the housewife cooked
several
messes of it seasoned with bacon grease. Cress or creases grew in old
fields
and came out early, too. Its tongue tingling spiciness added greatly to
the menu, when it could be obtained. The most sought-after and most
abundant
green was the lowly pokeweed or "poke sallet" as it was called. This
plant
is a relative of our garden spinach. It grew in abundance behind barns,
in old lots, and in fence corners. The mature plant and the root of the
pokeweed are said to be poisonous. Only the new, green shoots were
gathered
for food. These were parboiled in a large quantity of water, drained,
and
seasoned with bacon grease. This was served with crisp bacon, boiled
eggs,
if available, green onions, and cornpone.
In some households, there was a
superstition
that poke should be eaten three days in a row as a spring tonic. There
were some who did not care for it, however, they dutifully ate it
rather
than face the alternative
of taking a dose of sulphur and
molasses,
to ward off the spring miseries.
One would think, no doubt, that our
forefathers
had a hard time, and I reckon they did, but they enjoyed life. There
was
happiness, and people loved each other. If a neighbor fell ill, they
thought
nothing of walking eight or ten miles to "set up" with the sick and
administer
to their wants. During the long hours, a coal oil lamp burned, and at
least
two people sat by the bedside, bathing down the fever and giving
medicine...which
no doubt was calomel, widely used at that period. This was followed by
a big dose of castor oil. The patient either died or recovered. If the
latter, the patient would be fed chicken soup for about two weeks until
strength was regained. Neighbors pitched in and did all the work for
the
one who was ill. They brought in food that was already cooked. If the
patient
died, friends and neighbors came in and "laid out" the corpse, dressed,
and prepared it for burial. Three or four of the men got together and
constructed
a coffin. The necessary components could be bought at the country
store.
The cost was as follows: $1.25 for one set of coffin handles, $.50 for
one set of coffin hinges; $.50 for tacks and screws; $.03 for sand
paper;
$.50 for five yards of lining; $.50 for five yards of black damask; and
$.10 for one cotton bat. (These prices are from an old country store
ledger
in the possession of the writer, dated 1884). Once the coffin was
finished
and the body placed therein, it was kept about two nights, and
neighbors
would come from far and near to the "wake" and thought nothing of
"setting
up" the entire two nights with their dead. Almost everyone brought food
for their distressed neighbors. The grave was dug by the menfolk, the
dirt
shoveled on their departed friend, and they would drop a tear at the
passing
of one out of their midst.
Yes, I would like to go back in time to
the
country store where the air was soft and pure, where everyone went to
the
meetin', the women in their homemade bonnets and long dresses, the men
in their Sunday best, which was pants and a shirt made from hand woven
cloth and homemade shoes or boots. Where they pitched the tune with a
tunin'
fork, and sang through their noses with the fervor and spirit of the
faithful.
Some walked to church, and some hitched the horses to the wagon, which
had boards placed across the wagon box for seats. The ones considered
"well
off" had buggies or surrys; others, rode horseback. The women who rode
horseback, rode side-saddle. It was certainly not ethical for a woman
to
straddle a horse in those days.
Not everyone had horse stock to work
their
crops. Mostly, it was done with "goose-neck" or grubbing hoes. In the
newly
cleared ground or "new-ground", as it was called, the weeds and sprouts
would smother out the planted crops unless the farmer kept them
constantly
chopped out.
The old ash hopper, my grandfather told
about,
always held a fascination for me. The top box of the ash hopper was
built
on the order of a pig trough. It was about thirty inches long with both
ends closed and a small crack left in the bottom. The bottom box was
about
thirty-six inches wide and eighteen inches deep. The whole was made of
rough lumber; of course, and the cracks in the lower box was sealed
with
pine pitch. It was held together with posts of oak or hickory, crossed
in the middle and nailed securely to the boxes.
All the ashes from the stoves and
fireplaces
were put in the top box. If there had been no rain, then water had to
be
poured in on the ashes. This was called "primin". The water that
dropped
through into the lower box was lye water and used for washing clothes,
making homemade lye soap, and making hominy.
Most families had a big black iron pot.
When
hogs were butchered, all the fat trimmings were put in the black pot. A
slow fire was built under it to prevent scorching. A large wooden
paddle
was used for stirring until the fat was boiled out of the cracklings.
These
were skimmed off, and the lard was taken out of the kettle and put in
jars
for future use. They put the cracklings, along with the other meat
scraps,
back in the pot, put a fire and a lot of lye water under it. The
mixture
was boiled hard until the cracklings were eaten up. After cooling
overnight,
the soap was sliced into bars. The soap was always yellow.
Old timers made hominy by boiling corn
in
water, into which an amount of lye water was poured. I never found out
how much lye was used. This was boiled until the lye had eaten the
husks
from the corn. It was then removed and the kernels were washed through
many waters until all traces of the lye water were gone. The kernels of
corn would be almost twice their normal size. Nearly all families made
a batch or two of hominy.
Schools were few and far between and in
some
places there were none at all. It didn't take a lot of book learning to
make a living in those days, but it did take a lot of plain old common
sense, a strong body, and a reliance on the Almighty for the courage to
believe in ones self in order to overcome the rigors of a hard life.
After thoroughly reviewing the way my
forefathers
lived, and the hard times they endured, it's easy for me to see that
actually,
they were so much better off than the present generation. Back in those
days, no one was in debt. There was nothing to go in debt for. Most of
what was needed, was fashioned from the materials at hand. The little
furniture
they had was hand-made. An old wood-burning cook stove, a few pots, and
pans of cast iron, and molded in the roughest form, was about all the
furnishings
needed. These were the days of make-do. If what our pioneer kinfolks
wanted
was not available, they made do with what they had, and did not
complain.
(Having been born some sixty years ago,
and
being privileged to spend a part of my youth living with my
grandparents
on a mountain farm, I would certainly concur with the following
article,
taken in part from an old faded and torn publication, on which, even
the
author's name was not legible, and in which I have had to make many
additions
and deletions.)
Reflecting back on how I have lived in
the
heat and dirt and smoke of the man-made towns and cities, I am ready to
scream. I have heard the screeching of horns, whistles, and sirens, and
the braying of jackass politicians until I want to go back to the
old-time
way and hear the bray of a real simon-pure jackass. The change would be
music to my ears. Here, the land is all covered with bricks and
concrete,
and the hearts of many of the people are as hard and flinty as the
sidewalks.
"I would like to help grandma fill the
lamps
with oil or "ile" carried from a country store in a can with an "irish
tater" stuck in the spout, and watch her trim the wicks so the lamps
would
glow more evenly. I want to eat some food cooked on an old
"step-stove",
sweet "taters" baked in an oven on the hearth over hickory and red-oak
coals. It would be a welcome sight to see some of the womenfolks swing
the fly brush to keep the pesky devils offen' the table. Right here, it
might be said that a family rated according to the kind of fly brush it
had. The very poor used a limb, cut from a mulberry tree, and the
middle
class had one cut out of newspapers, and the upper crust had one made
of
peafowl's tail. That family rated, and rated high, brother!
"I want to go back where all the
common,
everyday towels were made of salt sacks, and where there was only one
"store"
towel which was put out only when the preacher came. I want to see the
man of the house take his tableknife of chilled steel and whet it on
the
tines of his fork before he carved the sow-belly that had been cooked
with
the beans. Did you ever eat any lye hominy or shuck beans? If not, you
have never really lived...you have merely existed!
"Oh, to return once more to the days
when
they made real country sausage and souse meat! Where grandpa and
grandma
smoked their long-stemmed clay pipes and would light them by dipping a
live coal from the old fireplace.
"I want to see the housewife reach into
the
salt gourd and get a pinch or two or salt to season the beans and
taters,
which were usually cooked by hanging on a hook in the fireplace to
conserve
stove wood. And who has not seen the home-made soap in the terrapin's
shell
soap dish on the wash bench just outside the door?
"Let's go into the "big house" and sit
by
the fire and see the old-fashioned dog-irons and the wrought iron
shovel
and tongs made in the country blacksmith shop. Did you ever see your
granddaddy
heat the old shovel on a bitter, cold day and hold it in front of the
old
clock to thaw out the oil in the old timepiece so it could go on
tickin'
off the hours?
"The parlor was the sacred place. It
was
there that all the sparkin' was done. There was the bed when company
came...a
fat straw tick and a big feather bed and a bolster or pillows. For the
poor, there were no parlors. The houses were usually about three rooms.
In the main room, was the fireplace. It was here that all the family
congregated
for warmth and family chatter. The head of the household and his spouse
had their bed by the fire. The rest of the family slept in the third
room.
When company was visiting, they usually slept in the room with the rest
of the family, or wherever there happened to be a vacancy.
"On the "center-table", or in some
other
safe place, was where the family album was kept. It held the pictures
of
the family dating back many years. The folks would usually pose with
one
hand on their knee and the other folded placidly across the stomach. I
want to go back to the time when all the shoe boxes were saved to make
splits for the women's bonnets. Remember 'em?
"I would like to go back and carry a
few
lap-links in my pocket, just in case the hoss busts a trace chain. I
want
to tie the rawhide ham-string once more and adjust the back-band til it
is just behind the hoss's withers. I want to tie my shoes again with
laces
made of groundhog hide.
"I want to spend Christmas in the old
way
once more and get from the Christmas tree, one stick of candy, one
orange,
and one penny pencil. The rich ones gave their children a French harp
and
the "night" was filled with music and the cares that infested the day
folded
their tents like Arabs, and silently stole away.
"I want to go back where the ducks and
geese
are picked every month; where corn and taters are planted, and soap is
made by the signs of the moon; where "warnits" and hickory nuts are
gathered
in the fall for the winter mast; where the folks still dig roots and
herbs
to buy their winter boots and shoes; and where these same boots and
shoes
are greased with sheep or beef taller; where the peggin' awl is still
in
use; where Arbuckles coffee is parched in the stove and ground in a
mill
held in grandpa's lap; where some of the menfolk tied the brooms with
home-grown
broomcorn; where they make popguns out of elders and shoot paper wads
in
them.
"Yes, I want to go back where they
drink
sassafras tea in the spring-time to thin their blood; where they churn
with the old up and down churn-dasher; where they turn the churn of
cream
around as it sits by the fireplace in the big house, so it will get in
the right form for churning; where goose quill toothpicks are still in
use; where they still boil the clothes and use bluin'; where they
refill
the straw ticks right after thrashin' time and where they wear long
flannel
drawers.
"Yes, I want to go back to the country
and
get my fill of cracklin' bread. I want to see the people eat again and
shovel it in with their knives. I want to go to the neighbors to borrow
the gimlet. I want to go back where they eat three meals a
day...breakfast,
dinner and supper...and the word "lunch" will never be heard again.
"I would like to once more watch
apple-butter
being made in those huge old, brass kettles, where the long handled
stiring
wooden ladle never stopped, and that bubbling pot of apple-butter gave
off an aroma that I haven't smelled since, nor can it be expressed in
words
on paper.
"Yes, I want to go back and make
another
corn-shucker out of locust. I want to strip some cane and top it and
dip
the skimmin's offen' the bilin' molasses. I want to go to the neighbors
for a bushel of seed corn, or shell a 'turn' of corn and take it to the
mill for bread and watch as the miller measured out his toll for the
grinding.
I'd like to call a few doodlebugs outen' their holes, but I want to
avoid
the spanish needles, the cuckleburrs, and the chiggers that make life
unbearable,
and to avoid stone bruises forever.
"I doubt if I could measure up to the
hardy
souls that were my forefathers. They lived by their strength, by the
work
of their hands and the sweat of their brow, by the faith they had in
themselves.
Theirs was a hard life, but it was honest. It was all they knew and
they
were happy in their way of life and helped themselves by helping others.
"I feel sad that they children of
today's
modern society are cheated by missing the things that in those days
made
families realize they had to work together to live, and in doing so,
were
kept in a mutual band of friendship.
"It doesn't seem possible in a span of
50
or more years that life has gone from ways of simplicity to what some
of
us consider utter confusion. People can't or won't take time to enjoy
the
natural things.
"We're living too fast. Modern society
has
filled us with tension, and unrest. Respect for the things we once held
dear and made life worth while a few years ago are gone.
"And as our beloved forefathers rest
and
meditate in their eternal dreams, on the gentle slopes where once they
erected their humble homes. We recall and reminisce about the ways and
traditions of the past, realizing with a tear of sadness that we can't
go back or live any of those happy times again.
Historical Sketches of Southwest
Virginia,
published by the Historical Society of Southwest Virginia, Publication
12, 1978
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